Is It Okay to Go Out With Your Best Friend's Girlfriend?

Here's a tip from Boy's Guide to Girls: 30 Pointers You Won't Get From Your Parents or Friends 

Q: Is it okay to go out with your best friend’s girlfriend?

A: Yes, if you’re going out as friends and all three of you know what’s going on. Absolutely not if you and his girlfriend have romantic feelings for each other and you’re doing it behind your friend’s back.

Situations like this happen, but before you two act on your feelings, understand that it could ruin the friendship between you and your best friend. Most of all don’t do anything without everyone being open and honest about what’s happening. That means she needs to end her relationship with your best friend before you go out with her.

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How to Do a Squat Exercise


  1. Stand with your feet slightly greater than shoulder-width apart.
  2. Lower your body, bending through the hips, knees, and ankles until your knees are bent 90-degrees. Keep your back straight.
  3. Return to the starting position.
(Hold dumbbells at your side for a greater challenge.)

Resistance exercise tones your body and builds muscular strength.

More exercises for young women and young men.

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How Many Times Should You Ask a Girl Out?

Here's a tip from Boy's Guide to Girls: 30 Pointers You Won't Get From Your Parents or Friends:

Q: How many times should I ask a girl out before giving up?

A: Every situation is different and it takes experience to judge when enough is enough. As a general rule, though, if she responds with, “I’d like to, but I can’t make it this time,” give her the benefit of the doubt and ask again later. If she says the same thing a second time, it’s probably her way of saying “no.”

If she gives you a clear “no,” or a good reason, like “I have a boyfriend,” then one time is enough. It’s tempting to go back later with an “Are you sure you won’t change your mind?” but, the best thing to do is gracefully accept the “no” and move on.

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How to Do a Lunge

  1. Stand with your feet about 12 inches apart.
  2. Step about 2 to 3 feet forward with your right leg.
  3. Lower your body until your left knee is 3 to 4 inches from the floor and your right knee is over your ankle. Keep your back straight.
  4. Slowly return to the starting position.
  5. Repeat, leading with your left leg this time.
(Hold dumbbells at your side for a greater challenge.)

Resistance exercise tones your body and builds muscular strength.

More exercises for young women and young men.

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Is It Okay to Date Younger Girls?

Here's a tip from Boy's Guide to Girls: 30 Pointers You Won't Get From Your Parents or Friends

Q: Is it okay to date younger girls?

A: Lots of girls get crushes on older boys. Your younger sister’s best friend or the girl-next-door are good examples of attractive younger girls who might all of a sudden take a liking to you. There’s lots of flirting and general talk about “getting together.” It’s a lot of fun, but you both know it’s a game. And while that’s fine, it begins and ends right there. 

So, is it okay to have an actual romantic relationship with a 13 year-old girl if you’re in high school? No, it’s not. You and a 13 year-old girl are at entirely different stages of growing up. Sure, it’s tempting because she doesn’t know the rules and you have the advantage. But, in the end, it’s not fair to either you or her.

Consider this: The older you get, the less the age difference matters. Eight years doesn’t seem so much when you’re 35 and she’s 27. But, that same eight year difference is much bigger when you’re 18 and she’s 10. If you like to date younger girls, wait until you’re older and the age difference isn’t as important any more.

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How to Do a Back Extension


  1. Lie face down with your legs together and straight, and your arms stretched out in front, palms on the floor.
  2. Raise your head and shoulders off the mat as high as possible. Do not tense your shoulder muscles.
  3. Slowly return to the starting position.
Resistance exercise tones your body and builds muscular strength.

More exercises for young women and young men.

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How to Talk With Anyone about Anything

Listen, from the Old English hlysnan, “pay attention to,” means literally to give ones attention to a sound. You can listen to and you can listen in if you want to know what’s going on.

Conversation requires two things: talking (duh!) and listening. Listening? How can you listen and get ready for what you’re going to say next both at the same time? Whether you realize it or not, you and everybody else does exactly that. It only gets to be a problem when you think so hard about what to say next that you don’t hear a thing the other person’s saying.

In many ways, conversation is like walking—one step at a time—except in conversation, you’re taking one thought at a time. When you’re talking with someone, clear your mind of other thoughts and concentrate hard on what they’re saying. Make eye contact, nodding your head, and saying, “I see” or “Um-huh” every once in a while to show you’re listening. Practice empathetic listening by saying, “Let me see if I understand your point,” then reword and play back what you heard and see if they agree. The give-and-take of a good conversation will just happen if you practice these techniques.

It always pays to be thoughtful during conversation, too. For example, think about the topic being discussed. Is it of interest to everyone involved? If a nuclear engineer really thought about it, would she wax on and on about reactor core physics to a Wall Street stockbroker? Would a stay-at-home dad talk endlessly about the pros and cons of after-school childcare to someone who’s never had children? Always consider the other person’s interests in whatever topic you put on the table for discussion.

Lastly, a comment about interrupting: there’s a very fine line between interrupting to confirm a point and interrupting because you just can’t wait to put in your two cents. The only time it’s okay to interrupt in the middle of a sentence is when you need to say something that honestly can’t wait. Even then, begin with “I’m sorry to interrupt” or some similar apology.

A good conversationalist knows that what they say and how they say it makes the difference between giving comfort or being offensive, being clear or causing confusion, and showing others they’re a friendly, thoughtful person—or a small-minded, long-winded boor.

Conversation Dos and Don’ts
  • Listen first.
  • Think next.
  • Talk last.
The Book of Bad Habits for Young (and Not So Young!) Men and Women: How to Chuck the Worst and Turn the Rest to Your Advantage  (Paperback and eBook)

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How to Do a Bent-Over Dumbbell Row


  1. Hold the weight in your right hand with your arm hanging straight down. Keep your back straight and parallel to the weight bench by looking up.
  2. Keeping your elbow in, pull the weight up until your upper arm is aligned with your back and parallel to the weight bench.
  3. Slowly return to the starting position.
  4. Switch sides after each set.
Resistance exercise tones your body and builds muscular strength.

More exercises for young women and young men.

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Why You Feel Sorry for Yourself



Pity, from the Old French pite, “compassion,” is a feeling of sorrow caused by suffering and misfortune. Pity also causes regret and disappointment. You can have self-pity or you can take pity on others. You can even have a pity party, although they aren’t much fun.

Everyone gets sad from time-to-time. That’s okay. What’s not so good is when you feel sorry for yourself on a regular basis; in other words, you do it every time something doesn’t go your way. Here’s what we mean.

Say you’re competing for a spot on the varsity volleyball team, and you don’t make it. You’re disappointed and sad about what’s happened. Disappointment and sorrow are natural, healthy responses. Feeling these emotions is how you work through and accept the fact that you weren’t picked for the team.

But, don’t confuse healthy emotions with self-pity. Your disappointment and sadness turn into self-pity when they go on and on, you get angry with the coach and the players who made the team, and you start making excuses for why you didn’t make it. You play the role of a victim by blaming others for the situation in which you find yourself -- dwelling on, wallowing in, and clinging to the sorrow and disappointment.

Self-pity feels good. It gives you excuses to rationalize why you failed, to escape the reality of what’s happened. Playing your version of it over and over in your head allows you to scapegoat your personal responsibility. People who are wrapped up and bogged down in self-pity believe they’ve been wronged and that everyone should feel sorry for them.



Try these things to avoid sliding down the slippery slope into self-pity.
  • Be on guard. Recognize when you’re crossing the line between disappointment, sorrow and self-pity. 
  • Make a deal. Don’t indulge in the behaviors associated with self-pity. Take responsibility for who you are and who you want to be.
  • Improve yourself. Make new goals. Try new things. Don’t let self-pity put you on the bench.
  • Be successful. Do things you can accomplish.
  • Stay busy. Don’t stagnate.
The Book of Bad Habits for Young (and Not So Young!) Men and Women: How to Chuck the Worst and Turn the Rest to Your Advantage (Paperback and eBook)

How to Do a Push-Up



1. Lie face down on the floor with your hands under your shoulders and your legs straight.
2. Straighten your arms and raise yourself to the starting position. Keep your back and legs straight.
3. Lower yourself until your body is parallel to the floor. Don't touch the floor.

(Support your body weight on your knees to make the exercise less challenging. For more of a challenge, elevate your feet.)

Resistance exercise tones your body and builds muscular strength.

More exercises for young women and young men.

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