Like you, girls size-up boys and label them according to how they look, dress, and act. Depending on how girls see you, they might think you’re smart, cute, geeky, or a jock. If you wear Left-4-Dead t-shirts and talk about making U-Tube videos showing Call of Duty glitches, most girls will label you as a gamer. They won’t know—because they don’t see— the other side of you that’s a sensitive guy who writes songs and plays guitar.
It’s a fact that people see you differently than you see yourself. “If Emily would just give me a chance,” you say. But, unless she sees in you a quality she likes or something the two of you have in common, Emily probably won’t give you a second look. And that’s okay. Don’t try to be someone you’re not. Remember that for every Emily, there’s another girl who likes sensitive guitar-playing gamers.
Here are the more popular labels girls have for guys. Do you see yourself?
- Jock: Athletic, good body, dresses well, socially popular.
- Hot: Great body, handsome face, stylish hair, dresses well. Can seem unapproachable, making some girls want them all the more.
- Funny: Always smiling, tells lots of jokes, good sense of humor, fun to be around, likes to be the center of attention. Can have a hard time being serious.
- Nice: Solid all-around guy, average body, dresses okay, polite, friendly, easy-going personality. Nice guys have to try a little harder because they don’t stand out in a crowd.
- Gamer: Quiet, shy, geeky, disengaged, messy hair, frumpy. Can look like they’re day dreaming all the time.
- Smart: Studious, eccentric, a little nerdy, hair and clothes usually out of style. Can have a hard time fitting in socially.
- Bad Boy: Rebellious, looking to be noticed, makes it a point not to fit in, ‘tough guy’ attitude, sometimes rowdy and loud. Can be a bully.
- Rocker: Cool demeanor, funky clothes, dyed hair, body piercings, usually thin. Always talking rock, punk, or metal. Super ‘hot’ for girls into their kind of music.
- Player: Good-looking, ingratiating, smooth, overly charming, makes it a point to be noticed. Considers himself a ladies-man. Keeps track of conquests like gunslingers notch their six-shooter handle.