One way is to stop talking to her. You can also say everything’s okay and act like it’s not. Or you can let her figure out the relationship is over on her own. There’re lots of nice guys who do cruel things like these to girls because they don’t know how to handle the situation. Here are some better ways to tell her it’s over.
Keep the discussion private. Announcing your decision at school or at a party may be convenient, but it’s insensitive and unnecessary. And letting her hear the news from friends isn’t right, either. The relationship was between you and her. Why should breaking up be any different? Keep everyone else out of it for now. They’ll all know soon enough.
Tell her face-to-face. Some guys just disappear when they break up with a girl. One day, everything’s okay and the next, they’re gone. Of course, you can always write her a note or send an email and say it’s over. But, the best way to break the news is to talk with her face-to-face. Be honest, but kind.
Think about what you’re going to say and how you’re going to say it. “I think we’d both be happier if we didn’t date anymore” is better than “You really get on my nerves.” And “I liked it a lot better when we were just friends” is better than “Going out with you was a big mistake.”
Will she still be your friend afterwards? It’s hard to say. You can be certain the news won’t make her smile. More likely, she’ll be hurt and maybe even angry, but, not nearly as much as if you aren’t up-front with her. On the other hand, she may be relieved it’s over. No matter what the outcome, though, when all’s said and done, it’s about having been treated fairly.
Consider this: Don’t start running around with the next girl before you tell your current girlfriend it’s over. Be honest and strong enough to end one relationship before starting a second.
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Posted by Frank C. Hawkins